In addition to writing and coaching, I host and produce an amazing podcast called A Single Thing. Why is it amazing? Because even though the majority of pop culture discussion about the single life points at how to avoid it at all costs, many people will tell you that they’ve grown more, changed for the better, and learned the most about themselves while flying solo.
So I wanted to start another conversation. An honest one, that will hopefully make you laugh sometimes, and say “oh hell yeah” other times. How can we get the most out of being single? What can we celebrate about aloneness? In this culture of coupledom, why can’t singledom be a great thing?
“Maybe these things take a while to develop. Maybe people change. Maybe vulnerability grows.” So I waited, even though I knew – or at least, the loud lady living in the corner of my brain knew – that people don’t change on a dime like that, unless they are characters in Hollywood movies.
And then, Ruble died.read more
I have, to my surprise and horror, met someone I like.
It’s not serious. I can’t do serious yet. I am still too traumatized by serious. Even leaving a bottle of contact lens solution at his house feels transgressive. He gave me a toothbrush because I forgot mine, and I had to stop myself from throwing it out afterwards to delete the evidence.
He loves to travel.
He doesn’t want kids. At all. Ever.
“I’m going out of my mind,” I whisper to my friend Susan.
“Me, too,” she whispers back. “But don’t forget: it’s Day 2.”read more