My Love Letter to Montreal, 10 Years in the Making
Ten years ago last Sunday, I sat by a window at a breakfast restaurant on de Maisonneuve, ordered a plate of pancakes, got out my journal, and wrote:
“What have I just done?”
I’d been in love with Montreal for years. From the night I’d arrived for a weekend visit during first-year university (do I have to say it? Yes, from Toronto) and bought WINE with my McGill friends at 10:58 p.m., FROM A CORNER STORE. From my first trip to the mountain, when I found myself at a poodle’s birthday party. After my first hangover recovery over a highrise sandwich and a milkshake at Santropol, I’d made up my mind: Montreal was where I was going to find myself. It was chic. It was Europe without the visa issues. It was where I belonged.
Cut to 2002. I was living in my hometown of Ottawa, working at a job as mentally stimulating as bellybutton lint, in a relationship with someone I had not yet admitted to myself I shouldn’t be with. I was, I now know, clinically depressed. It was the only time I ever got out the Yellow Pages and searched for a mental health hotline. But there was a light on the horizon: I’d applied to a one-year journalism program in Montreal. My favourite city was going to save me, and journalism was going to give my life meaning. I’d be a writer, living in an Amelie Poulain-style apartment in the Plateau, but still be a respectable citizen, and also maybe change the world or something.
The journalism program rejected my application.
Lying in bed some nights later, during a brief moment of calm between bouts of hopeless misery, something occurred to me. There was nothing keeping me in Ottawa, except my relationship, but wasn’t there that thing about absence making the heart grow fonder? I could move to Montreal anyway. I could live in my Amelie flat, get a job, be colourful and interesting and poetic, and also buy 79-cent pizza at 4 a.m. And so, on June 3, 2002, with a rental car full of clothes, my metabolically-challenged cat, and $1,000 (enough money to live for, like, ever) I moved into a tiny sublet bedroom in a five-student apartment on de Maisonneuve and Guy.
The next morning, after my moment of terror over my plate of pancakes, I put my journal away, the question still dangling over my head, and walked up St. Denis to Mount Royal boulevard. It was a sunny, perfect, early summer’s day, and people were out on their rollerblades and their bikes and their terraces, beaming at each other as they do here, as if we’re all in on a giant secret that the rest of the country doesn’t even suspect. A Dutch tourist actually stopped me on the sidewalk and asked me out for coffee. (This has never happened again since.) I bought an Amelie poster, went home, taped it to my wall, and slowly, the light came back in.
Over the next few months, I moved into a shoebox-sized studio on St. Joseph. I took a writing workshop, where I was introduced to Anne Lamott, whose books would go on to guide not just my approach to putting words on paper, but my understanding of spirituality, community, parenthood and when to just shut it all down and take a nap. I got my first piece published in The Gazette, glory of glories! I got a temp job answering phones at a TV station, which somehow got me a temp job answering phones at a small television company, which somehow got me my first real, properly-paying job in TV… at the same office where, three years later, I would meet my future husband.
I’m making this all sound like some kind of rom-com montage sequence starring Reese Witherspoon. Those first few years in Montreal still mostly sucked. Did I mention I was temping? And 95 per cent of the population assume that temps are on par, intelligence-wise, with lobotomized Barbie dolls, and treat them accordingly. I lived on my own, so it was hard to find places to make friends, except at work (see previous sentence). And I stayed in my relationship, blaming myself for my unhappiness, instead of accepting that maybe I’d just chosen the wrong person.
Even when I started getting regular TV and writing work, I wasn’t bounding out of bed in the morning. Every minute of every day, I told myself that I wasn’t doing enough. I should be writing haute couture commentary for Vogue! I should be in the Middle East, reporting for the CBC! I should be the glam, the bam, the foosh, the whoosh, the new noir. I should be at schmancy receptions, canoodling with Important People. I should be Somebody. And nothing was going to stop me until I achieved that goal. Not even all the misery I inflicted on myself to get there.
Ten years later, I share an office space with my dog, a pile of dirty jeans, and some dust bunnies who have created a bungalow beneath my printer.